I want independence, and I want to stop engaging in haram activities. But we are not. I feel like I was reading my own story.. Coping with Mental Illness today. The only crushing despair is to have no hope, and even then it can be restored and renewed faith will move in just as fast to heal and mend. This is where you have to remember, you have Allah, who has written all you plans for your future and no matter how hard it gets don’t give up. Becoming aware that you are meant to be here, in this world, at this moment in time – your “life’s worth” is what is important for you to realize and acknowledge. 4) Do more zakat, voluntary work (see how less fortunate others are than us, it somehow cleanses our hearts) One more adaptive behaviour that I have found useful is instead of finding people to talk to, I write down my unfiltered thoughts on my phone or on my private blog at night when I can’t sleep. I clicked your link to the blog but i received a message that i need to be invited to be able to access it. I have exam anxiety and people say “everyone gets nervous during an exam, that’s normal”. Do not misunderstand, I became Muslim thanks to the efforts of Muslims scholars. To see my mother in this kind of pain is so hard to see. I heard that when people die, they ask one more day, just one more. Doing as much good as you can, wanting Jannatul Firdous. About your marriage.. just go for it. When we met, he forced me to do same sins, I told it is against our religion, he was also a religious person, he taught me more about islam, islamic dresses, I trusted him. As many commentators mentioned, this article captured my thoughts and feelings I have been having for most of my life, but especially the past 10 years. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) is known to have said: "Whoever was afflicted with grief and distress and says (see the following Dua), Allah, the Exalted and Ever-Majestic, will remove his grief and will change his sorrow into happiness." (Islam Online Archive, n.d.) REFERENCES . Why Marijuana and Depression May Have a Positive Link That Creates Happier Minds. Every singe time. Nothing(!) I have often gone to Islamic talks hoping that they will save me from despair but I come back worse because the message I get is we are not good Muslims. i dont feel writing too much stuff right now,i am so so tired,i am so sad,i want to die,i have such a bad life,lonely life,i have no one,so i was thinking if anyone would want to be in touch with me,if anyone wants to be friends pls do so. I don’t want to be a burden and I don’t want others to pity me. Her books are Finding Jesus among Muslims: How Loving Islam Makes Me a Better Catholic (2017) and Islamophobia: What Christians Should Know (and Do) about Anti-Muslim Discrimination (spring 2021). We should try having a better opinion of our Lord. Another thing that helps me is meditative yoga. I find I am angry a lot at my parents especially my mother for giving me such an immense responsibility at such a young age. I also painted my room yellow, gave away things I didn’t need to charity and bought a few nice things for my bedroom to make it look good. My hair has also significantly disappeared, I lose interest in things that I used to like. I have the added burden of being a philosophy major and one of my class topics was on the existence of God. (which is why I landed on this article) and the only thing I can do is turn to the book of Allah (Quran) for healing, guidance and blessing. Your article had me in tears.No one I’ve known has ever been able to put into words so correctly the raging emotions. And I also 110% agree that because one is suffering, doesn’t mean they are a bad person. * Pre-order Johann Hari's new book Stolen Focus now! * THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER 'A book that could actually make us happy' SIMON AMSTELL 'This amazing book will change your life' ELTON JOHN 'One of the most important texts of recent ... May Allah blessed you and all of us. Sometimes we are more harsh to ourselves, our thoughts to ourselves are so harsh, we would never say it to anyone like, your wierd, no one wants to be around you, your a burden etc they’re so harsh and not true forever. ASAK Videogames? We told our parents that we want to get married so since he talked about me to family I thought he was serious about us. Hey sister I hope you are doing well it’s 2021. I read this with tears as it really feels as if someone has written my hidden feelings out. Maybe, depression isn’t a sickness but an answer? Having just read this article, I remember very well when I suffered similar thoughts and feelings, could not sleep, I was just a shell. I am a twenty-four year old woman. Now he suddenly turn back to see his sins, pages will be empty. Coping with Mental Illness today - The Islamic Monthly. wa aslih lee sha'nee kullah. Please remember that Islam does not recommend extremism, even with regards tho worship. My grandmother had dementia i am scared i am going to.end up like her. According to verse 65:2-3 we don’t need a Psychiatrist,right? 24/11/2014 at 12:12 pm. Be a bussinessman. Sometimes I think we feel obligated to always respond, Alhamdulilah, I am well/okay. I dont have much support. And if it wasn’t meant to pass because Allah SWA knows best, I could’ve died studying and I still wouldn’t have passed. And once they’ve revealed their “secret”, don’t leave them. You may not see it, but the solution is just around the corner. I have been depressed for the last 2 years and I have tried everything to ease the depression with no result. Every night before going to bed, i will listen to surah , hoping i will rest in peace tomorrow. But, once given a chance to communicate and dialogue, we’ve made a new friend and really learned something about someone. With an up-to-date section on everything you need to know about commonly prescribed psychiatric drugs and anxiety disorders such as agoraphobia and obsessive-compulsive disorder, this guide can show you how to feel good about yourself and ... I love my mom a lot. Ask him how many scholars and righteous people had a dark past? Hi I have been through deep depression and came out of it by Allah’s mercy. Try to avoid high carbs like white rice, white flour, etc. I pray that whoever is struggling mentally, to get the help that they need before it gets worse. For all you who like to read (and even the ones that don’t) I HIGHLY a recommend a book called “When Life Begins” by Abu Yahya. I didn’t realise I was suffering from depression, until it became very apparent to outsiders. And if they are Muslim I tell people who tell me I didn’t try hard enough that I did and that’s all I could do, the end result is up to Allah SWA and if He intended for me to pass I would’ve passed without even studying. It hasn't automatically fixed me, but it has helped tremendously -- even when I've gone through times of having no friends. Then I get depressed every time, read Quran some time, then I repented every time. But now I have realised there is more to life. I feel the same.. I’m getting married this November the date is fixed but now i started feeling like i don’t even want get married.. My two sisters are close in age with me but find ways to get out of responsibility. There are many who hide it well, as you have done. im having the same feeling but i cant describe it to anyone. I have been suffering from depression for almost 3 years now. May Allah SWA help us all and strengthen our Eeman. And the as you have wrote about that friends need to keep checking on you, I don’t have them Friends or family. once you walk away you will feel the steem of self hatred leaving you and the waters of self confidence from our Creator pouring into you. I so desperately want someone to save me, yet I know only I can save myself. I feel lost. I’ve been struggling for about 2 years now. There is only one thing that makes us who we are. I have prayed 5 times everyday, stopped and started again over the course of three years. Lose or lack of something. (Embarrassing) Sister. He didn’t create the heavens and earth uselessly, He didn’t make differences in atoms unnecessarily, He doesn’t make leaves fall with no purpose. As for blind faith, we can’t see the wind but we can feel it and we believe it exists instead of tossing the notion of the wind aside and chalking it up to imagination. What distinguishes you as a Muslim from someone who does not have this faith? It gets worse when I’m alone and when I’m with a big group. this has helped me a lot. I would appreciate your comments on my post about depression. On a side note, do watch this video on Surah ad-Dhuha if you have the time. I also wish Muslim scholars would address these issues in their talks. As much as I want to help her, I have anxiety and am well on the way to depression. So let’s fight the satan’s whispers, keep him locked out of our hearts and may Allah swt heal our hearts, ease our burdens and grant us mercy. Even if the suffering feels endless and you feel yourself getting exhausted from the weight of it all, do not lose hope- for there is ease and something even better waiting for you right around the corner. Same problem with the science one. I have realized this though: I now know that no one can really help me out of this as it’s my own thoughts and feelings that are killing me and making me feel depressed. My mother in law is making me depressed. Life’s too short to be depressed and drowned in self pity. He must have forgotten me by now and will grow up without a father. Nothing in the world is worse and more painful than depression, and I sincerely pray that Allah embraces anyone who has it with His mercy and His healing. It prescribes the practical care that is needed to lift people's spirits and bring them freedom, power and joy. Spiritual health is possible and this book explains how everyone can grasp it for themselves. I am looking for someone just to talk to and possibly be good friends. The first thing I do is that I engage with my own negative thoughts (this only works when my state of depression isn’t too bad though). I’m married now but eventhough i’m totally in love with my wife,i’m never okay. My Alcoholic Husband Is Making Me Depressed: Living With An Alcoholic Husband. Yes, my life is not “perfect” (whatever that might mean), and I was already a mature man when I made Shahada as a Muslim, and my experiences — or lack of experiences! If you are a brother there is a recovery house in B.C. Allah heals .. for sure.. time n sabr is the key.. n loots of dua! I would rather be in this dungeon that I’m in, alone; but my mind knows that the loneliness will only make it worse. I depended on the support of frail humans.I neglected prayers due to absolute lack of concentration. There is something wrong with my dad. So if anyone is tempted to kill themselves, it won’t work. I just felt the need to share this as I don’t want anyone to feel alone as I once did. He’s also a muslim (practicing sometimes) and I’ve always confided in him. I spend most of my days grieving and crying over what I have “lost” through my two illnesses (I suffer from an auto immune illness which causes.immense pain and mobility problems and I also have clinical depression with inaomnia. “You just don’t try hard enough.” “You just don’t have enough iman.” Allah swt forgive me, but I no longer have the time of day for such people. If we want to be pillars of support for those who are suffering, it will require effort. And I did not notify my family as they do not understand psychological issues. Correct all of my affairs for me. My body weight has decreased significantly and no matter how much I sleep, I still feel really lethargic. don’t know what to do. I wish for something that would only kill me, I wish I could give my life to someone who is dying but would make more good in life and world than me. It’s more of a self diagnosis, I read the article and most of the comments posted and I can’t help but relate. In this day and age we are all a train wreck waiting to happen. I am a mother too and have had to leave my unrespectful husband It is much better than that (wealth) which they accumulate. The feeling was amazing and in that moment I was the happiest I had been in the last 4 months. Allah doesn’t like suicide, it’s a major sin, and we should avoid it, but Allah can forgive things like suicide. Sometimes it gets to much for me I wish I had cancer instead, now people would say how can you say that?! I dnt want to feel lonely anymore and this is the one thing I am struggling with. That in essence is what true faith is. Its never an act of good muslim. Nana, it sounds a very true feeling of my heart.please write a solution how would you overcome your depressions.techniques to take out. I thought that I was a ‘bad muslim’ for being depressed but at least, I now know that I’m not alone. Even though it’s only based on his thoughts supported by scripture and Hadith and he says that we don’t know what the hereafter holds for us, it’s a very awesome read. One thing I think to myself is .. maybe this pain in this life that I feel everyday, that I want to crush my heart, that makes me feel insane, will maybe be because I will have my true everlasting happiness in paradise. 5. Prayer and rememberance of Allah SWA, the all-mighty, all-knowing, the all-powerful, and some self-help books. So they should rejoice in it. I can’t talk to my family because they won’t understand and they have their own things to worry about. I am writing this because I want to tell you how I feel. We can only control our actions and duties, not the outcomes. Sister, you done a mistake, I agree. There are special tools and techniques on how to deal with past experiences, which need to be adopted in a structured way. Religion? He came upon a monk and he asked him if his repentance would be accepted. I heard in a nice lecture that happiness comes from focussing on all kinds of good deeds that we can do to please Allah, in this way we will stop focussing on ourselves or rather we won’t even have time for that.Life is too short to be depressed rather focus on creative ways to please Allah as on the day of judgement 24 drawers for deeds done in every hour will open up for all of us, we are her to earn jannah, when you are depressed about some thing focus on all the blessings that you have rather than what you don’t have.Join Quran class online and focus on deeper meanings of Quran then you will realize that our major depression should be whether we will make it to jannah or not or whether angels of mercy or punishment will come to take my life.Now depression is also due to chemical imbalances in body, there is a clinic by the name of Mensah in Chicago, he treats depression by giving vitamins, you can google to get his address as he is really good in 2 to 3 yrs you will be fine inshallah. Hence sister, allahs nabi said "regret itself is towba" You are making towba throughout the time sister. Without modern medicine you might not even have a chance combatting it. Sitting at home crying, praying and reading the Qur’an wont always help. Lovely article. I think the biggest problem is facing loneliness. If you have money, its really easy – just takes a couple of minutes on the internet, but the reward is enormous. You have total mastery over me), Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just.” I ask You by every name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’an the life of my heart and the light of my bosom, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety. If I was well I could relate but PLEASE Muslim scholars help those of us who are drowning…give us some words of hope….have compassion for us. but from past 2 yrs of continues failures tragedies I dont knw what step of my lyf will take… However, I have to confess that I do partially blame the scholars I listen to. I have never seen any kind of muslim person to do this to another muslim and his family… Supposedly they have made our life a living hell. I most definitely took this as a sign that Allah was hearing all my prayers and he is telling me to be patient. Science? it’s May 23rd 2020 right now and it’s been a while but I hope you are doing well. Women can be critical and judgmental in common everyday situations regardless of their religion. This article sums up exactly how I feel. You have no say in what happens from day to day. Your mind is like a room filled with a thick, opaque darkness. It will make all the difference. Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoqhNz7wD3I. The world would be better without you. I am really grateful for this article…I, like many others havent been able to actually put into words the feelings I have been struggling with for so long. I believe it is hard but depressed folks should muster up courage and see a psychiatrist. When one is depressed or deep in the depths of blueness, it’s near impossible to see one’s situation with any clarity. What’s important is to have faith. Being there for a person who is depressed is mentally and emotionally draining. I am okay today, so I am able to write this. But keep trying. And I want anyone suffering like me to know that there are others that are observant, struggling Muslims and that they feel the way you are feeling. I really need a counsellor but can’t get one for now and i can’t explain why.. Hello again. You hope 18 turns to 40 quickly, hope 25 becomes 65 quickly, so you can leave with pride and grace and not shame and disgrace. Again, this is only my personal opinion. A study in rats found that chronic stress can reduce our body's abilities to make its own natural endocannabinoids. http://palousemindfulness.com/index.html Keeping you in my prayers. However, with this, no one asks, no one understands because they don’t know how it feels. so please don’t judge others behaviors & beliefs. It's a blessing. Studies show this mineral can alleviate depression and anxiety. But maybe seeing a mental health professional could be part of the way out. It’s not easy, but there is a solution. Book is assistance is helping me to realise my purpose again. So basically when I go home after school, I lock my self in the room and barely come out. What mental disorder you have? Insha’allah soon you will find peace in yourself with it. I also resorted to self-harm behaviour because I couldn’t even cry to Allah during prayer and express my self to Him. the more you struggle with something the more grateful you should be to Allah that he has given you the opportunity to struggle for Allah. until now, i’m still depressed. All rights reserved. But I would not stop with a ‘medical doctor.’ Due to today’s insurance climate and medical culture, they simply don’t have the time (and often the interest) to really dive into your situation, to really listen to you, to really find out whats going on. I just dont know the wisdom behind the suffering of it. 2nd advice: start to exercise REGULARLY; weights/running/walking/swimming/wrestling/archery/horse riding (the last 4 being sunnah sports) you will feel much better. I pray that people facing such situation see the sunshine soon. I am not currently taking meds but have taken antidepressants. I also feel as if I have no one to talk to and I don’t want to burden or hurt anyone else in the process of telling my problems… One exercise that we learned is to take deep breaths and really be in the moment: feel the chair your sitting on, the white noise you hear, analyze the door, colour and texture of the wall. Get out of bed. It’s in fact quite the opposite. I have another best friend , shes religious mashallah but I don’t think she’ll get it. Also I have a lot of friends but I don’t they’re the type to really sit with me and listen. Hold on, too. I was hoping that you would be kind enough to send me an invitation. I feel the same way, you are not alone and it will get better You can do this on your computer as well or just have them in your mind. You are not smart enough. Ask him whether he believes in the Messengership and truthfullness of Rasoolullah SAW? among the causes of unexplainable depression is sihr/ black magic, and this is a common problem in muslim communities. Videogames? 3. In the Middle East, it is common for a person to be surrounded by siblings, aunts, uncles, siblings and other relatives who all . Poor and desperate, all he was able to cry was “My Lord, I am in need of any good that you send me.”. Also, don’y’t ever let go off the 5 daily prayers as praying is the best remedy. Things haven’t exactly been easy for me lately and disconnecting from the society was a way that I thought may help. those days were hardest of my life. Because you can’t see him but he is there with you and ready to help you. May allah forgive us. Get more magnesium. Ameen! I thought that i forgot allah and allah forget me, maybe thats why my life is full of saddness. I am so grateful for this article because I honestly thought I was the only one that felt like this. Sometimes, all I want to do is sleep and forget about everything but then again, having depression does result me in having troubles to sleep and night as well. I suspect that many (I certainly do not say all) Muslims do not really understand the reality of mental illness, how devastating it can be to an individual’s life, even to iman itself. Let us all just make dua for one another. So why not put blind faith into thinking things will get better. Allah will ask "why you where hiding your sins from the people in duniya?" I wonder about taking my life. several other verses also point to people who if they do good after the sign has come it would do them no good. I am feeling the same too. Yet their sins didn’t stop them from repentance, their sind didn’t make them hopeless and give up… Rather it was a catalyst to get better and morr beautiful and they did! I don’t want to unload the hurt I feel onto others. So please if you are battling anxiety or depression please keep going, keep your head up and trust in God. They will not call you. :). I’m going to make sure that it comes to the attention of society that it’s real and people need help. I can relate to much of what is mentioned here. I have dyslexia and ADD. And people will continue to become such after repentance and him; your son is no exception! The author of The Caged Virgin recounts the story of her life, from her traditional Muslim childhood in Somalia and escape from a forced marriage to her efforts to promote women's rights while surviving numerous threats to her safety. I know what it feels like to be down and “exam anxiety” is not my only issue. National zakah foundation in the UK also operate shelters and distribute zakah funds. Salam. It’s the trick of the Shaytan to tell us that we don’t deserve His mercy anymore. I decided to take my anger out on my deen. Hi Juhaina., can we be friends. Muslims don’t understand mental illness. I am 20 years old and have been facing depression for over 3/4 years now. If they don’t im sure another mosque will. hey assalamualaikum brother/sister. I dont know how to deal with my depression anymore. I am certain I will commit zina…I have no faith in myself or Allah. Read the Quran translation if you have to. maybe Allah swt doesnt want us to forget the afterlife so depression links to death so you do better with your life, get back on track and not put faith in temporary realistic items such as makeup, brand named clothes, etc… it’s all a fallacy and one day this temporary feeling wont even matter… maybe we need to remember the prophets (peace be upon them all) also went through this.. there was no difference and so should we… so maybe this is a testament that we need to be stronger or do better for ourselves and a strong reminder that the prophets (pbut) went through this, why are we any different? > whatever the problem you face always be thankful to Allah & never complain. I’m gonna feel used and useful, knowing that Allah applauds me for my performance at the sad scenes i perform while praying to Him. Things may seem impossible to handle, but don’t worry, it will be fine Inshallah. I feel it in every moment. When I was going through a tough time in my life, a friend of mine recommended me to say a Dua that one of the companions said when she went through a hardship: “Allahumma ajir fi museebati wakhlif khairan minha.” And really, to whoever you are brother or sister, Allahumma ajir fi museebatik/museebatak wakhlif khairan minha. Mashaa Allah, I am so grateful that i just found this article. 2) There are Quraanic verses and Dua that are good for cure. I have been taking psychotropic drugs for many years, and before that, my life was utter chaos, despite my efforts in religions (I tried several before Islam) and extensive psychotherapy from various practitioners with different psychotherapeutic models. im totally depressed im 13 my parents have been away for 3 years ive done all i could to bring my family together its not a fight or anything but every one works in different regions honestly thres only one moment in my life that i can remember where my whole family was together ive crossed the atlantic 2 times alone to visit my parents every time they make a plan to come something drws them away.
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